7 Ways To Keep The #Love Spark Alive Beyond #Valentines

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This blog is about intimacy, emotional health and life balance.

For many couples, keeping that Valentine spark of love and intimacy isn’t hard when it’s nurtured daily.  When it isn’t nurtured daily, contention and conflict build so couples drift away. Marriage and relationships aren’t supposed to be filled contention and conflict, it should be filled with love, mutual sacrifices for each other, lack of selfishness, fun and good honest open communication.

Stress, fatigue, too busy schedules, lack of making quality personal time for  your loved one enough of a priority, and lack of balance is hard to keep that love spark happening. Setting your priorities for your time is essential with your spouse and good health.

Is your passion, sexuality, intimacy and communication in your relationship waning?

Take action now because it’s not healthy! Relationship health is even more important than going to the gym, working late at the office or eating healthy.

We make time for what we value the most in a day. Are you making the time to keep and nurture your committment? Are you making time for each other daily?

Here are 7 ways to keep that love spark alive 365 days after Valentines day.

  1. Schedule planned uninterrupted time for your lover everyday!
  2. Realize your lover must and is your top priority. Relationships are more important than work and children.
  3. Spend quality time listening to each other to understand with compassion
  4. Ask how you can be supportive, regularly
  5. Spend 15-30 minutes relaxing and de-stressing before you talk. Stress is a killer for relationships. Never ever have a serious discussion when you are stressed.
  6. Make time to be intimate to give and receive
  7. Use essential oils to stay balanced, less stressed, open communication and enhance intimacy on all levels (physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually)

Some recommended essential oils that can be very supportive in intimacy or to your relationship in general.  Who couldn’t use a little help in this area?

Essential oil scents have a direct connection to the limbic region of our brain (the emotional part). When we breathe them in the brain picks up on that.  The nose knows, thanks to our olfactory system!

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Girl breathing in essential oil

Essential oils are effective several ways: In a diffuser to fragrance the air, a drop or two in your hands an inhaling, as a bath oil, on your face, hair or trigger points on the body, and as a massage oil when added to a base oil like fractionated (liquified coconut oil or pure virgin olive oil). Contact me for more information.

Only use doTERRA CPTG  (certified pure therapeutic grade) essential oils. They are the most effective, potent and pure I’ve ever found. There is a difference! I’ll save you the disapointment.

Balance Blend– balances body systems and create grounding reducing mood swings and reduces stress.

Wild Orange – increases tenderness, abundant feel, gratitude, and cheerfulness to relationship.

Ylang Ylang – known as an aphrodisiac. Increases sexual desire, calms anxiety, opens emotions. Dispels feeling of anger, jealousy and envy. Can help with impotence and limited sexual response.

Rose Oil  Emotionally uplifting. Helps with libido, hormones, romance and skin imperfections.

Lime – Adds joyfulness, laughter, increases sexual desire, and ease anxiety.

Passion blend – Helps create passion and for each other as well as passion for achieving passion for other aspects of life’s dreams (relationships, work, starting a new business or continuing the one you have, being fit, etc) .


Ginger – Boots vigor and heats up the sexual feeling when it’s waning. Ignites passion and desire.

Clary Sage – Seductive, sensual, exhilarating and euphoric. Boosts the desire, calms and soothes stress and anxiety, lessening inhibitions and deepens communication between partners.

Forgive Blend – Helps one to forgive ones self and forgive others. This oil can bring each other into more harmony with each other. Forgive each other of the past mistakes.

Life Long Vitality Nutrition Pack – If you are feeling tired, stressed, unmotivated and unhealthy, this is one of the best complete plant based natural nutrition packs to support you. Having the right nutrition is huge is key to you feeling good.

Guaranteed to help you feel more energy and vitality in 30 days or less or your money back!

Here is a blend you can try out next week to start it off. It’s worth it!

Loving Massage blend

2 drops Geranium Oil

3 drops Sandalwood Oil

2 drops Ylang Ylang

3 Drops Clary Sage Oil

1/4 c Fractionated (liquified coconut oil), or pure virgin olive oil or unscented lotion.

Remember these oils go a long ways for many uses and are very inexpensive per drop to use as well as being the best quality.

Have these essential oils on hand so your prepared to create the mood and connection anytime.

Email me if you would like other recipes.

To get these oils at wholesale click here


You’ll be happier in many aspects of your life by adding these ideas into your daily routine. Make it important, make it scheduled, make it happen. It’s worth it in the end.

These 7 steps really do work.

Live Wellevated!


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